I made a commitment to myself exactly one week ago today. I said that when I awoke on Friday August 21, 2009 that I was going start that day securing my financial future. In one week I have progressed far more than I ever thought. I had always had a positive attitude, but I had never made up my mind to really start making a plan. Sure we all say what we are going to do, but never start a viable plan. It has been said that you should never stop learning. Well for so many years I had stopped learning, and that is why I have been stuck in my downward financial situation. I always believed that I could accomplish the task, but deep down I did not know how.
I have learned that 96% of the world’s population does not know how to earn money, and I am one of those people. Sure we know how to go to work, but that is not earning money. That is working for money, or trading time for money. So I have begun to change my way of thinking so I can learn this process. The process requires reading, studying, and sincere action. I do not want to have to worry about if I will be able to pay my bills on time anymore. I do not want to worry about if I can provide for my families basic necessities, food, clothing, and transportation. My wife started her new job this week and had to walk to work because we had no money to make the repairs to our vehicle. That was an extremely sad day for me.
Yes I still have two broken ankles and can not walk, but I have a mind that works, and opportunities for change. I feel that change requires a plan, and a plan requires action, and a dedication to success. It is now time for success, by January 1, 2009!
I have been doing a lot of surfing and reading of articles on the internet lately. Trying to take advantage of new technology. I read an article today that stated there are so many trying to offer answers and solutions to others problems, but they are only presenting the same old tired messages. It puts me in the mindset of the old fashion chain letter. They are just passing the same quick fix solutions around and around. My e-mail had gotten so bombarded with junk that I changed it. What is interesting is that you don’t see these money quick fix answers on television, and why? It cost a lot of money to run commercials.
I wonder how many others are in the same situation as I am in right now. I have worked consistantly since Sep. 2005. Now I am now temporarily disabled for another 2 months. Men and women working hard to support their families and one mistake leads to an injury. Some permanent and some temporary. I wish there was a way to encourage, uplift, and motivate others through their situation. Right now everything hurts on my body except my broken ankles. Amazing! Before today I was getting around pretty good, or shall I say crawling around pretty good. I hurt!
I am very grateful that I continue to find ways to stay positive throughout my ordeal. My two littles one took over my dungeon today, and they pretty much ran me out of here today. Watching the Disney Channel, and my son even got mad because my television would not get Disney XD. I told my wife and she just said oh well. So this is what my wife have to deal with while I am out working.
I remember when I drove as a long haul truck driver, and when I would leave for my trips my son would beat on the window crying. You know that was the hardest thing that I had to do. Here it is 5 years later and it still makes me sad to think of those moments. That type of work caused my family hell! I remember vividly when I was in training. My trainer told me that if I had a loving family at home, that over the road truck driver should not be for me. I did not listen. All I could think of is following my dream of being a Truck Driver. I loved driving those trucks and my family suffered, and the money that a first year driver makes is pothetic. That career move almost caused a divorce. Six and a half years of hell! My uncle trained me with another company and he said he did not want to be at home for long periods of time. I should have listened.
As Tupac said in one of his songs, “It is up to the man in me to conquer this insanity”. I had programed my self to work and over work, or all of the overtime that I could get to take care of my famliy, and I have not learned how to live. I now work at a plant and when there is an outage, I work the night shift 6 pm to 6 am. Still away from home. It is amazing as I sit here typing this that I now realize that all I was doing was working myself out of a life. Is that what life and famliy is about? No!
It now seems that my accident will allow me an opportunity to get my priorities straight. To get out of the robotic work mode to the wife and children first mode. Don’t get me wrong a man needs to work and provide for his family, but not at the expense of his happiness/sanity nor his family. I promised my wife that it would be for better or worse! I now realize I have played a major role in making it worst, if not the main role!
I must now sit my wife down and we must develop a financial plan, a marital plan and a famliy plan. I feel that the lack of thoughtful planning has caused me my past and current problems, and this may be why many families fall a part.
It’s time for a change. Starting Friday August 21, 2009!
I think my family is starting to get tired of having to wait on me, due to my accident. I hear it in their voices. Yes dad! What do you need dad! I see it on their faces. I hear it in my wife’s voice. I think I have become a burden on them!
June 12th of this year Daddy-Man at, www.daddy-man.com broke both of his ankles jumping off the roof while playing hide and seek with my wife and kids. The funny but sad part is that they had called it an evening, but I felt after running after them all evening they should have to find me. My wife said that they heard me on the roof and that is how they found me. If any of you have played hide and seek. You know that if you get to base first you win. So I hurridly jump down,and the atmosphere of the game changed. When I hit that ground it was pain immediatly. My wife said that as I was kneeling in pain my son came and tagged me and said, get up Dad. They all laughed except me. I had to crawl into the house. I thought it was just a severe strain. I felt so much love from my wife and kids that evening. I hope those of you reading this have received that kind od love. If not find away. It is beautiful. I found out the next day how bad it was. Cast for 3 months. Daddy-Man had lost all of his powers with one jump!
Though it was a just a bad accident, I have caused my family a lot of stress and hardships. I have gone from Daddy-Man the family super hero, providing for their needs and taking care of them. To watching my wife have to find a job after being out of the work scene for some 15 years trying to provide for us. I used to visit schools trying to mentor our youth. Hoping to motivate them to seek positive paths and goals for their futures. Now I am Daddy-Man crawling on my hands knees throughout my house, because the wheelchair is to wide and my room has steps. I don’t really know how my family feels about me in this state of being, and I don’t think they would share their real feelings. I sometimes wonder if they feel embarressed when I appear when company shows up. My wife now calls me wheels!
I stay in my room a lot, because I don’t want to hender the healing process, or make it longer than necessaery. My wife revealed to me that I am going to need physical therapy to learn to walk again, and that’s when the real impact hit. The burdens that I have placed on my wife and kids. It really must be hard for them, because it is now hard for me to thinking of them.
This room has become my self imposed dungeon. I sit with a remote and base my schedule around The Discovery Channel and The History Channel. I have recently added the FX channel and Dr. G. Medical Examiner. Doctor G. is an amazing medical examiner when it comes to discovery a persons true cause of death. My favorites are 6 hours of OverHaulin with Chip Fosse on Wendsdays, The Discovery Channel, and 3 hours of Ice Road Truckers on Sundays, The History Channel with reruns on Wensday. I have watched Chip Fosse turn cars that you know should be in a scrap heap into to a showroom thing of beauty. I have to physically close my mouth sometimes when the finished car is revealed. It leaves you stunned. Those men and women are so talented. I try to imagine what my suburban would look like after it had been Fossed! It’s on now. A 1964 Chevy Impala it is in bad shape.
I drove trucks for 6 1/2 years so my love for trucking still burns deep. Watching those drivers navigate the ice roads of Alaska are nothing short of pure talent. My favorite drivers are Jake Jesse “The Dalton Ace”, and Lisa Kelly, “The Tomboy”. Being a former over the road trucker allows me some sense of what they are up against. To me it is like fishing in the Bering Straits of Alaska for crabs. VERY GOOD MONEY, intersting to watch, but not for me.
I only get to go outside once a week to go to church, because I don’t want my cast to itch me out of my mind. I did sneak out a couple of times onto the carport the first week of the accident and my wife let me have. Big mistake! My kids came outside with stern looks on their faces and wheeled my behind right back into my room as to say, stay put or else. Donna reminded me that sweat in cast equals itching.
Michael and Elle come watch televison with me sometimes. We watched the first Xmen on FX last night. We also watched Shark Week on the Discovery Channel. That was an amazing series. I now help my little ones with homework since my wife is now working, and I really enjoy it. I am grooming Elle to be a spelling Bee whiz. All Micheal say is “I want Mom”. that son of mine is funny.
My family continues to help me on my journey to recovery. I miss wearing my suit! I miss my alter ego! Daddy-Man is me, and I miss being me.
I try to always reflect upon the positives of each and everyday of my life, but I am constantly reminded about the sorrows of so many by the hands of evil and thoughtless people. People that pray on the defenseless and the innocent, and further the plan of human destruction in these latter days. So many that profess to be christians, but humanity is being trampled by so much evil. It is not always easy to be cheerful when your neighbor is struggling with a loss, or hundreds of people are being exterminated, but you have to continue to count your blessings one by one to see what the Lord has done!
Where is the positive point of the message you asks? Protect your neighborhood by being an active member of your neighborhood. Acknowledge your neighbor with a smile and a wave. Do unto others as you would want it done unto you! Everyone knows someone that needs a helping hand. Be that hand.
No one can survive alone! Someone else made the computer that is in front of you. Someone else made the tools for farming. Created the technology that we take advantage of for our gain. I am sure you could think of something that is available to you that you did not create or produce. Thank another! I thank all of those past. present, and future for their contributions that make life comfortable for me and my family.
Some give a little. Some give a lot. Some have given their all even their life! So whatever station of life that you are in give something!
Today is another day of my tomorrows! I constantly reflect upon the happenings of life. The good, the unmerciful, and all of the beautiful flowers that I have not yet smelled. I often ponder many of the wonders of life. Life has meaning, and it has purpose. Our capabilities are enormous. Our potential is grandiose. If and only if we can conquer self! Self has the potential to squash any and all dreams before that can even start, and why does that happened? I don’t feel some of us know who we are! It is easy to think, but it not so easy to know.
Tomorrow will be here soon enough, but first things first. There is today! I awoke from my sleep from a bed in a house. The lights came on. There was food to eat. I had close to wear. This blessing was not enjoyed by someone! A sad reality. I still have two broken ankles, and confined to an air conditioned room, sitting in a comfortable chair, computer, television, and all of my senses! Today I begin searching for a means of income to help my wife with our daily expenses. Can I do it? You betcha! Is it difficult? Absolutely! I don’t have a clue of the who, what, or where, but my wife needs my help and I intend to find a way.
I wonder what would happen if everyone were to sit down and put together a list of goals. Break those goals down daily, weekly, monthly, every ninety days, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, etc.? There would probably be a lot of happy individuals on the earth. I wish someone would have helped me learn that principle prior to now.
What will happen to me tomorrow? I don’t know! It is only 1:15 pm Monday. I still have a ways to go. Without a plan of action it will be as today, and that is the area of my journeys that I want and need to change.
I feel our attitude matters more than anything else. You can’t be happy with a negative attitude. You can’t find peace in a negative state of mind. You can’t accept responsibility for negativity.
As I sat thinking before I made this post, my thoughts were on how my presence affects not only my family, but everyone else. Do people say, oh great here comes Ivy! Do I present the persona of the character from the Flintstones of Bad Luck Schleprock. No one wants to be around, involved, or in acquaintance with a person with a bad attitude!
I say all of this because situations are not always in our favor, and some use the excuse that the situation or event caused the reaction. That is not fair to the recipient.
When I broke both of my ankles in June I could not work , and I still can not walk. I never blamed God, my family since it was their idea to play, or myself. It was a bad accident that shattered our moment of family bonding. Throughout this journey I have exhibited a positive attitude and I feel it shows in how my wife and kids help me.
My wife had to search for a job after being out of the work scene for some 15 years. She is still trying to adjust. She has her good days, but in spite of this ordeal. She is prevailing and conquering the mountain that stands in her way. She has created TheBrokeWivesClub.com. I am pleased with my wife’s attitude and support her on her journey.
Attitudes can and will make you or break you!
I feel life’s problems can be solved if we would just take the time to slow down and gather all the tools that are available. Even if you have to borrow some!
- Not Stuck Anymore! Awareness
- The Attitude Shift…Mine Explained
- Humbling Parent Moment
- The Darkness is Leaving!
- The Path to Change
- Tangible and Intangible Happiness
- It’s time For Your Awareness!
- The Multitude of Habits Cycle
- My Daughters Destructive Attitude!
- Living With a Purpose!