Here we go again with another one of our kids. It would be easy and simple to say that I don’t understand what is going on, but that would be a lie, because I do know what is going on with my children. Another daughter seems to be loosing her way, and going down a destructive path. Until today I really did not know how to help them on their journey of life.
I have had incidents with five of my daughters, and they have been some real barn burners, (this is a family channel:-). I just wanted this daughter to leave my home, and I said I did not care where she went. I did not want her in my presence. That was not a shock to hear that come from me. The farther away the better.
I grew up in a home completely opposite from what my wife and I have created, and I got, shall I say pissed off and quite upset at her actions, and attitude about her actions. I did not, and do not want hose kinds of vibes in my home or around me. So my solution was get her out of my presence. See when someone tells you that they don’t care and has been saying that for the past couple of years despite attempts to help solve the issues, a reaction of leave sounds about right.
Both myself and my wife wanted to grow up in homes where the love was not only seen, but felt and shown through actions. There are too many kids wishing that they had parents that cared as much as we do for our children. She also made a comment of what was the big deal. The very essence of your being screams any bad situation is a big deal. That is when I knew her head was not right. It still did not make me feel any better, but I was willing and able to put it behind me and have us move forward.
Thank goodness for the Paradigm Shift video series, because in one of those videos is where I found the answer to my daughters current mental state. I have been watching those videos for the last two months, because I wanted a change for myself. Little did I know they would be of a greater service else where! It especially helps if you are in tuned to the higher powers to be, and are inspired to go read notes taken from a previous lesson. Now I know how to help my other daughters, and to help my little ones make better choices as they grow up.
I have learned that the mind is very powerful and also very destructive. I have also learned that the mind can be changed for the better. Mine has!
My final statement is take time to prepare for the unexpected, because it will come!
I have always considered myself to be a good Father to my children. Today I learned another aspect of being a Father/Dad that I had been struggling with for quite a few years. I always thought that I struggled with the art of communication, but I learned differently today. My struggle has been the art of motivation or better yet guiding my children to achieve their vision or purpose for their life. I now have an understanding why there are so many struggling men and children in the world. If you are living your life without a definite and clear purpose. You are just living a life filled with constant struggles and lack of enthusiasm for life. As i sit here and think about my past, nothing that I was doing then has anything to do with my purpose for living.
Now my immediate task is to implement a plan first to change my own habits, and then seek to work with helping my children refocus on a vision or purpose for their lives. Then help them put together a plan that will help them succeed. Everyone has been brought into this world with a divine purpose. Goals are not a purpose! Goals are what guides us to our purpose for living.
I enjoy being ME! I want to be the best ME that I can be each and everyday for the rest of MY life!
On September 30th I decided to fully commit to a Paradigm Shift for my life. So you ask what is a Paradigm? It is a multitude of habits. I had habits that lead my life to just a mere existence, and I was not happy. My life was based on the masses of my community, state, and our country.
So far my morning routine has changed, and that reflects how my day will evolve. I have read 3 books and a couple several times. I have begun to create a winning attitude for prosperity and success, spiritual, mental, and physical. I no longer focus on where I am. I am where I am! I now focus on what I want and where I want my life to go!
Yesterday I wrote my first childrens book. The words just flowed with such ease. My wife said she has read it 3 times, and encourages me to write another. When one seriously commits to making a Paradigm Shift wonderful things begin to happen. My marriage has even taken on a new life!
My mentor Bob Proctor made a statement! God’s gift to us is more talent and ability that we will ever use in our lifetime! Our gift to God is to develop as much of that talent and ability as we can in this lifetime!
Take any group of 100 people at the start of their working career and follow them for 40 years until they reach retirement age and here’s what you’ll find, according to the Social Security Administration:
- Only 1 will be wealthy
- 4 will be financially secure
- 5 will continue working, not because they want to but because they have to
- 36 will be dead
- 54 will be dead broke – dependent on the meager Social Security checks, relatives, friends and even charity for a minimum standard of living.
That’s 5% successful, 95% unsuccessful.
All of my life I always wondered how my life would it up at the age of retirement. Picking up cans to survive. Waiting for the SS check in the mail. Now I have an idea of what could have happened!
There is a way to make solid changes and a new direction. I started making those changes a few weeks ago, I feel great! Bring it on!
I just read a comment on Facebook from a dear friend, about a comment that their child made to both her and her husband. The comment was that the child said that he hated his parents and wished they were dead, and he is only 7. Regardless how this came to be, I don’t feel that statement should ever be made to a mother. Considering that child was carried for months through pain and suffering of mind, body, and soul by its mother. One might say it is deserved or brought it on themselves, or any other excuse. The fact remains this should never come out of a childs mouth to their parents!
That is not healthy behavior, and could possibly lead to other acts of defiance to both parents and to others of society. Children are bringing harm to their parents everyday, and have been for years. I have never had my children make comments to my face such as that, and I don’t entertain any attitudes that would lead up to those situations.
I guess I am from the old school. You just did not make comments relating to that in any way shape or form without suffering the consequences of that action.
My son use to slap my wife when he was still a toddler and I told her not to let him do that. Her comment was if you hit. Then he would learn to hit also. Well he hit me when she was not around. Before he knew what happened, I gave him three quick pops on his legs and he never hit anyone else again. I feel a child can be chastised without being physical at times, but there are times when shock treatment is necessary. I wonder how many imprisonments could have been avoided by currect discipline. Notice I said CORRECT discipline. The dicipline has to properly fit the actions of the child.
I repeat my original statement. No child is justified in vocally expressing their hate to their mother!
Over the last few weeks I have been watching videos by Bob Proctor on paradigm shifts. I always wondered why I made some of my choices over the past years. After watching the first video, it started making a lot of since to me. The human mind is so amazing, yet so very vulnerable to outside stimuli. We are all so different, but all so much the same. No matter what race, creed, or sex. We all basically think the same. There are 7 free videos and I have made it a point to watch one a day, and will continue until I am satisfied that my multitude of habits have changed. I will know when my actions have changed. So far I have noticed some changes and it has only been about 3 weeks. I am amazed at how quickly things are happening.
I address my wife much differently then before. I even see a beauty in her that I have not seen in quite some time. I interact with my children differently, and my perspective on life’s situations has been great. All of these years I just existed, and did not realize it. All of these years I thought my life was moving forward, but I was just stuck in on pause. You know the get up and go to work, pay the bills routine. Then you stop and say what have I got to show for my life after all this time?
Well I now know how I got here and why I am here! It is like someone turned the light on and I can now see. Wow!
For three and a half months I have had to crawl to get around my home. Where am I? I can now walk! I am starting from scratch and I have begun a process of rebuilding my financial future from but an idea. Many times the thought of no hope, guidance or direction is our fate. Well I have learned over the last couple of days that is not the case. Mankind often look for answers in the wrong place, and that is what I have done all of my life. The answers have always been within me all of my life. I like so many others have looked for answers to life’s questions outside of me, and that had led to many trails, but I am grateful for those trails. It is because of my gratitude for those trails that I now know where I am going!
To a life totally filled with happiness, joy, and whatever I desire out of life. What do I desire out of life? To go and admire towns, cities and distant lands, with my family. To help others as I have had others help me. To create memories that will last a lifetime. To find and enjoy the elusive security that I have longed to have. Will I get it without a doubt.
Yesterday I stood for the first time after 3 1/2 months of crawling do to my broken ankles. The severe discomfort was so overwhelming that my daughter had to shove the wheel chair under me before I collapsed. I had looked so forward to yesterday all month long. My expectations were that I would suffer unbalance like a baby trying to walk for the first time. It was not unbalance that I felt. After my initial shook, I had to mentally regroup and try another approach. I got home grab the crutches and tried it again. It worked, I walked slowly, tenderly, carefully, and any other adjective that you can think of.
To see my 5-year-old son beaming as I took those steps were all the motivation that I needed. I was in so much discomfort and it was written all over my face, but I had to show my family progress. I did not want to look at my wife as I took those steps. I could see the concern on her face from the corner of my eye. My wife and children have been so supportive through out my ordeal, and I know that I have a wonderful family. My goal is to walk a short distance without crutches on Saturday.
Today is a new day with new challenges and opportunities, and I am going to tackle them one at a time.
Now that I know why my life is where it is, change starts now. Today is the first day of the rest of my life, and I am the only one who can change it’s direction. I accept 100% responsibility for the direction in which my life has gone and will go! I truly understand that it has been my doing all alone and no one else. I have wanted to change many aspects of my life but I didn’t know how. I do now! I thought that I knew who Ivy Butler was, but I did not. I thought that I knew what I wanted, but I did not. I thought that I knew where I was going, but I did not! Today is the day that I discover everything about myself. I will determine my purpose, my goals, and lay a solid foundation for my future!
This is my declaration to myself.
- Not Stuck Anymore! Awareness
- The Attitude Shift…Mine Explained
- Humbling Parent Moment
- The Darkness is Leaving!
- The Path to Change
- Tangible and Intangible Happiness
- It’s time For Your Awareness!
- The Multitude of Habits Cycle
- My Daughters Destructive Attitude!
- Living With a Purpose!