As a parent there is always a question in the back of your mind about how well you are doing. There are times when you can see the results and there are times when you just have to wonder.
There is a humbling feeling to wake up in the morning to see a group of sleeping teens in your living room! Knowing that they just gathered together to spend an evening of wholesome moments together. This will be a good memory for them to know that they can make right choices even as a teenager!
I don’t know about you, but I am grateful to know that my home is considered a safe haven for “some”!
Something to think about today. I learned this principle from my mentor. If you are struggling with something that your child or children are doing, it is because of their multitude of habits. Now how did they develop their multitude of habits? Was it from you the parent? Was it from their peers? Habits don’t just appear. They grow! I now have an understanding of why my children struggle and have struggled.
Because of my multitude of habits, I have overlooked their growing multitude of habits. As I look back over the years there were a lot of signs that I missed, because of my multitude of habits. Nothing just appears out of nowhere! Just like a seed has to start from a beginning. So do habits. Bad or good.
He is an example. My wife and I just recently found out that our daughter has been smoking, and had sex. Where did we go wrong you ask? We developed a habit of ASSUMING that she would make good decisions. We developed habits of ASSUMING that the young ladies that she associated with had good moral values.
I could go on and on with this. It is because of our(her parents) developed multitude of habits we missed some very important signs.
Last point! If I develop a multitude of bad habits at work chances are I will get fired. My multitude of bad habits affect my children’s progress.
The good thing about all of this is that we can all change by making a Paradigm Shift. A Paradigm is a multitude of habits. It is because of my Paradigm Shift that we were able to find out what she had been doing, and that is why I know that it works and is worth it.
I wonder how many others are in the same situation as I am in right now. I have worked consistantly since Sep. 2005. Now I am now temporarily disabled for another 2 months. Men and women working hard to support their families and one mistake leads to an injury. Some permanent and some temporary. I wish there was a way to encourage, uplift, and motivate others through their situation. Right now everything hurts on my body except my broken ankles. Amazing! Before today I was getting around pretty good, or shall I say crawling around pretty good. I hurt!
I am very grateful that I continue to find ways to stay positive throughout my ordeal. My two littles one took over my dungeon today, and they pretty much ran me out of here today. Watching the Disney Channel, and my son even got mad because my television would not get Disney XD. I told my wife and she just said oh well. So this is what my wife have to deal with while I am out working.
I remember when I drove as a long haul truck driver, and when I would leave for my trips my son would beat on the window crying. You know that was the hardest thing that I had to do. Here it is 5 years later and it still makes me sad to think of those moments. That type of work caused my family hell! I remember vividly when I was in training. My trainer told me that if I had a loving family at home, that over the road truck driver should not be for me. I did not listen. All I could think of is following my dream of being a Truck Driver. I loved driving those trucks and my family suffered, and the money that a first year driver makes is pothetic. That career move almost caused a divorce. Six and a half years of hell! My uncle trained me with another company and he said he did not want to be at home for long periods of time. I should have listened.
As Tupac said in one of his songs, “It is up to the man in me to conquer this insanity”. I had programed my self to work and over work, or all of the overtime that I could get to take care of my famliy, and I have not learned how to live. I now work at a plant and when there is an outage, I work the night shift 6 pm to 6 am. Still away from home. It is amazing as I sit here typing this that I now realize that all I was doing was working myself out of a life. Is that what life and famliy is about? No!
It now seems that my accident will allow me an opportunity to get my priorities straight. To get out of the robotic work mode to the wife and children first mode. Don’t get me wrong a man needs to work and provide for his family, but not at the expense of his happiness/sanity nor his family. I promised my wife that it would be for better or worse! I now realize I have played a major role in making it worst, if not the main role!
I must now sit my wife down and we must develop a financial plan, a marital plan and a famliy plan. I feel that the lack of thoughtful planning has caused me my past and current problems, and this may be why many families fall a part.
It’s time for a change. Starting Friday August 21, 2009!
- Not Stuck Anymore! Awareness
- The Attitude Shift…Mine Explained
- Humbling Parent Moment
- The Darkness is Leaving!
- The Path to Change
- Tangible and Intangible Happiness
- It’s time For Your Awareness!
- The Multitude of Habits Cycle
- My Daughters Destructive Attitude!
- Living With a Purpose!