As a parent there is always a question in the back of your mind about how well you are doing. There are times when you can see the results and there are times when you just have to wonder.
There is a humbling feeling to wake up in the morning to see a group of sleeping teens in your living room! Knowing that they just gathered together to spend an evening of wholesome moments together. This will be a good memory for them to know that they can make right choices even as a teenager!
I don’t know about you, but I am grateful to know that my home is considered a safe haven for “some”!
Over the last few months I have been asking myself questions about what goes on around me that involves marriage, my children and people. The more I witness the more I dig for answers. Right now at this moment I am amazed at what goes on in the life of a human! I have been making notes striving to put it all together so that it makes sense to others. I have been studying about what science, experts, and scholars have known for ages. People are not truly aware of the “other” method or path that brings tangible and intangible happiness!
Something to think about today. I learned this principle from my mentor. If you are struggling with something that your child or children are doing, it is because of their multitude of habits. Now how did they develop their multitude of habits? Was it from you the parent? Was it from their peers? Habits don’t just appear. They grow! I now have an understanding of why my children struggle and have struggled.
Because of my multitude of habits, I have overlooked their growing multitude of habits. As I look back over the years there were a lot of signs that I missed, because of my multitude of habits. Nothing just appears out of nowhere! Just like a seed has to start from a beginning. So do habits. Bad or good.
He is an example. My wife and I just recently found out that our daughter has been smoking, and had sex. Where did we go wrong you ask? We developed a habit of ASSUMING that she would make good decisions. We developed habits of ASSUMING that the young ladies that she associated with had good moral values.
I could go on and on with this. It is because of our(her parents) developed multitude of habits we missed some very important signs.
Last point! If I develop a multitude of bad habits at work chances are I will get fired. My multitude of bad habits affect my children’s progress.
The good thing about all of this is that we can all change by making a Paradigm Shift. A Paradigm is a multitude of habits. It is because of my Paradigm Shift that we were able to find out what she had been doing, and that is why I know that it works and is worth it.
Here we go again with another one of our kids. It would be easy and simple to say that I don’t understand what is going on, but that would be a lie, because I do know what is going on with my children. Another daughter seems to be loosing her way, and going down a destructive path. Until today I really did not know how to help them on their journey of life.
I have had incidents with five of my daughters, and they have been some real barn burners, (this is a family channel:-). I just wanted this daughter to leave my home, and I said I did not care where she went. I did not want her in my presence. That was not a shock to hear that come from me. The farther away the better.
I grew up in a home completely opposite from what my wife and I have created, and I got, shall I say pissed off and quite upset at her actions, and attitude about her actions. I did not, and do not want hose kinds of vibes in my home or around me. So my solution was get her out of my presence. See when someone tells you that they don’t care and has been saying that for the past couple of years despite attempts to help solve the issues, a reaction of leave sounds about right.
Both myself and my wife wanted to grow up in homes where the love was not only seen, but felt and shown through actions. There are too many kids wishing that they had parents that cared as much as we do for our children. She also made a comment of what was the big deal. The very essence of your being screams any bad situation is a big deal. That is when I knew her head was not right. It still did not make me feel any better, but I was willing and able to put it behind me and have us move forward.
Thank goodness for the Paradigm Shift video series, because in one of those videos is where I found the answer to my daughters current mental state. I have been watching those videos for the last two months, because I wanted a change for myself. Little did I know they would be of a greater service else where! It especially helps if you are in tuned to the higher powers to be, and are inspired to go read notes taken from a previous lesson. Now I know how to help my other daughters, and to help my little ones make better choices as they grow up.
I have learned that the mind is very powerful and also very destructive. I have also learned that the mind can be changed for the better. Mine has!
My final statement is take time to prepare for the unexpected, because it will come!
I have always considered myself to be a good Father to my children. Today I learned another aspect of being a Father/Dad that I had been struggling with for quite a few years. I always thought that I struggled with the art of communication, but I learned differently today. My struggle has been the art of motivation or better yet guiding my children to achieve their vision or purpose for their life. I now have an understanding why there are so many struggling men and children in the world. If you are living your life without a definite and clear purpose. You are just living a life filled with constant struggles and lack of enthusiasm for life. As i sit here and think about my past, nothing that I was doing then has anything to do with my purpose for living.
Now my immediate task is to implement a plan first to change my own habits, and then seek to work with helping my children refocus on a vision or purpose for their lives. Then help them put together a plan that will help them succeed. Everyone has been brought into this world with a divine purpose. Goals are not a purpose! Goals are what guides us to our purpose for living.
I just read a comment on Facebook from a dear friend, about a comment that their child made to both her and her husband. The comment was that the child said that he hated his parents and wished they were dead, and he is only 7. Regardless how this came to be, I don’t feel that statement should ever be made to a mother. Considering that child was carried for months through pain and suffering of mind, body, and soul by its mother. One might say it is deserved or brought it on themselves, or any other excuse. The fact remains this should never come out of a childs mouth to their parents!
That is not healthy behavior, and could possibly lead to other acts of defiance to both parents and to others of society. Children are bringing harm to their parents everyday, and have been for years. I have never had my children make comments to my face such as that, and I don’t entertain any attitudes that would lead up to those situations.
I guess I am from the old school. You just did not make comments relating to that in any way shape or form without suffering the consequences of that action.
My son use to slap my wife when he was still a toddler and I told her not to let him do that. Her comment was if you hit. Then he would learn to hit also. Well he hit me when she was not around. Before he knew what happened, I gave him three quick pops on his legs and he never hit anyone else again. I feel a child can be chastised without being physical at times, but there are times when shock treatment is necessary. I wonder how many imprisonments could have been avoided by currect discipline. Notice I said CORRECT discipline. The dicipline has to properly fit the actions of the child.
I repeat my original statement. No child is justified in vocally expressing their hate to their mother!
- Not Stuck Anymore! Awareness
- The Attitude Shift…Mine Explained
- Humbling Parent Moment
- The Darkness is Leaving!
- The Path to Change
- Tangible and Intangible Happiness
- It’s time For Your Awareness!
- The Multitude of Habits Cycle
- My Daughters Destructive Attitude!
- Living With a Purpose!